We get out of this world what we put in to it.

July 15th, folks. Here we are, halfway through another month. How are you doing? No, really. How are you doing? As a person, as a parent, as a wife, husband, brother, sister, friend. Employee and employer. How are you really doing in the midst of our 2020?

I'm asking this in all seriousness because so many of the people I communicate with, whether in person or digitally, will take a pause to see if I'm serious, and then share in some measure or another, they are not okay.

Honestly, I've given out more virtual hugs in 2020 than I have in my entire online experience. And, I give a LOT of virtual hugs.

When someone turns the question on me, if I'm honest? I have to admit I'm struggling here. This was the year I was going dive back into my writing, my website, my online presence and interactions. I kept asking myself: how can I stick to my author persona & a happy perky book promoting social media plan when I feel such a burning & deep anger at our current administration's dismissal & denial of our concerns for our loved ones re: health & race?

I've kept the majority of my bile on Twitter rather than spreading it out over my other platforms, because the negativity, anger, and despair I sometimes feel isn't what I want to share. Sadly, every time I decide I'm going to stop, something else comes up that so infuriates me, I have to toss a comment out into the void.

But that's not the person I want to be. That's not the person I am. Deep down I truly believe that we get out of the world what we put into it. That kind of negativity isn't what I want to put out into the world. It certainly isn't what I want to receive in return.

It's easy to project outrage and blame. It's much harder to look inwards for the source of real change, and it's even more difficult to figure out how I can best serve those I interact with.

Which is why I have to try. I know I'm going to fail. Often. I'm human and that's how we learn. All I can do is promise to learn from my failure, get back up, and try again. I hope you'll join me.

And, seriously? Let me know. How are you?


"First realize that your world is only a reflection of yourself, and stop finding fault with the reflection…set yourself right mentally and emotionally. Let alone the reforms and mind the reformer.” –Nisargadatta